To be in a relationship or not to be….
April 1st, 2010 § 4 Comments
That young padawan is the question. It’s been almost a year since I’ve been in a “relationship” and I must admit it was fun and lonely at the same time. But the important thing to remember here, is that there were no pitfalls… I could do no wrong, I didn’t have someone besides me, who’s expectations I had to live up to, or someone I had to impress with my macho-ness (not that I have any). I could just do what I pleased, get pissed drunk and sing the same chorus of “yesterday” again and again without wondering whether my better half had left me, for dead, to fend for myself in Banaswadi at 4 in the morning. I was (and am) answerable to no-one. The other side, of course, is that, being single, you’re inevitably the unneeded wheel on the figurative vehicle.
Like tonight for example. Friend’s party, 18-odd people scoot to leave behind 2 couples and me. I, of course, don’t get the hint. Instead of making a dignified getaway, I hang around and offer to be DJ. (Note: never do this, horny couples, or couples in love, whatever. Don’t really need music to ‘get it on’) So these couples effectively tune me out, until I start croaking (loudly) the chorus of “Still haven’t found”. At which time they’re about ready to throw me off the 4th floor.
Being an unnecessary spoke/wheel never has advantages, unless of course, your ex is trying to get it on with your arch nemesis. And, still you end up looking like a jack-ass. So it’s a no-win situation.
Let’s re-cap:
Being in a relationship (the pitfalls):
- eradicates freedom
- cuts your fun to an absolute 0
- you’re responsible for someone else (from holding hair over toilet to getting them back home safe etc) {ref. point 2}
- restricts you from singing / croaking “yesterday” in public
- forces you to not like people that ‘she’ doesn’t like
- and finally, forces you to leave the party before the alcohol actually runs out (i.e. at a reasonable time)
Being in a relationship (the up-side):
- never feeling out of place, when everyone else is ‘grinding’ to “sexual healing”
being a part of numerous double/multiple couples dates
You decide…
the ex trying to get it on with your arch nemisis …..haha ….thats funny…….On the bright side ,your nemisis will defn go downhill with the ex …hehehe
I’m glad I’m not the only one who finds oneself still sometimes lonely when in a relationship. Being single can be wonderful, but being in a fulfilling relationship can certainly be more so.
On one hand, i’d like to say that you’ve evidently been seeing women who belong to a bygone era or another planet (definitely not called Venus). On the other, i want to laugh my *beep* off – it seems like women aren’t the only ones making the wrong choices where men are concerned! Oh, the irony.
The frustrating part about being single is being surrounded by a society that celebrates coupledom. Especially the girlfriends and their self proclaimed mission to find you a guy. People find it hard to comprehend that a girl can be single and enjoy her life alone. I am perfectly lonely and perfectly happy with it.